By Andrew Green
When it comes to parenting, one of the toughest can be foster parenting. While nearly all other parents will know a lot of good, solid, and visual history on the children they are raising, as a foster parent, you may have little more information than those in the child welfare field will tell you.
At the same time you may indeed be a temporary stay, or grow to a permanent situation (whether official or just as it continues along). It takes special people to deal with this level of uncertainty and remain in the best interest of the children.
Thats the most important aspect of it all though, if you are willing to do your best to help continue children along into a positive direction, from where they came from, caring that they are taken well care of; then foster parenting may very well be something that you can do to contribute to the future.
On the other hand, if you simply see foster children as playmates for your family or as additional income you should steer away as you can do more damage than good in the big picture for both your own family as well as the foster children. As with any parenting, you need to be in it for the sake of the children.
The outcome needs to be the same as fulltime parenting at the point when they leave your home. In other words you have to be a parent just the same, but within the foster childrens life, you need to take over for some time, and do your best to see that they have a good home, and growing experience within it.
Some foster children were removed from a bad home situation, whereas others were brought into the foster home situation due to their own problems elsewhere (home, school, etc). Taking the time to find out as much as you can on this situation when coming into it will indeed help you to be better at foster parenting.
You will likely need to overcome emotional issues starting with how they came to your care. Some may know well already, or just think that they will get tossed from home to home for the rest of their lives. You need to find out as much as you can and help them understand at their current situation.
They may even be rebellious as a result. Even though they may still be young, they are humans and make decisions; though maybe without a good understanding of it all. You may be the difference in their life that begins a happier lifetime. Remember, if no-one helps them understand what they ask, they may simply make up their own opinion and hold everyone else to it.
You will also have to expose them to a good home where they are earnestly cared for. This is something all children need to prepare them for the world they will eventually be in. If they get there with a lot of anger and hatred, odds are they will never find happiness in it. Your task is to do your best to help them get there and find a good future.
In the end, there is no shorter answer to any childs growing years. It takes the whole stretch to get there. As a foster parent, you have the opportunity to show them a positive direction to run in, while also having proud memories of them as well (short or long). Doing your best at foster parenting can bring you many good experiences as well.
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